Written by: Mariam Writes
Over the years, it has been the norm for men to chase after women, and women to act entitled and worthy of the ‘chase’. Most often than not, within the circles of females, the conversation has been that when men don’t chase you as long as you would want them to, then they are not the ‘right’ ones for you. And on the men’s table, lies the fact that you are NOT supposed to give up when you like her ‘that’ much.
I find these unnecessary rules and ‘codes’ that both genders try to live by, as far as relationship is concerned, ridiculous. No woman is worth the chase, no man is worth the chase either. In fact, there should be no ‘chasing’ in the first place.
And this is why:
- It is the root cause of most successive relationships: Oftentimes, males feel entitled to women they have ‘chased’ after for a long time. Sometimes, they feel such women are like “properties” they have worked for this, they tend to expect them to literally worship them or reciprocate their effort in one way or the other. The women on the other hand generally get accustomed to being at the receiving end of all the affection, care and attention in the relationship and expect their partners to continue with that kind of lifestyle, which is possible to keep up with in a lasting relationship. A lot of people who are naturally meant to together end up going on their separate ways because they started a relationship on a misconception that has drained the energy, desire and zeal to be with each other out without giving them a heads up. Long-lasting relationships often start on the right foot, which is blooming on natural terms instead of the pretence that comes with short term relationships. When things come to be on natural grounds, things are not forced, care and concern are not forced. Everything becomes easier and simpler.
- It leads to low self-esteem and depression: Speaking from the female perspective, being chased for a long time seem to give off some sort of misconception that you are not ‘cheap’ and you are being valued. When the vice verse of this happens, most ladies tend to think that they have faults or they are just undeserving of a man’s affection and love. This tends to depress them and make them look down on themselves, which should not be the case. Also, males who do not get the women they desire after all the ‘chasing’ become pathetic and feel they are not worthy enough to win their hearts. When in reality, the woman is just trying to get him trying harder and he is fed up continuing with the game of being played by both parties.
- It impedes one’s growth: Chasing a loved one, whether a male or female is another way to retrogress in all aspects of one’s life. Go after your dreams, your goals, your aspirations, your aims rather than investing all your time into a relationship that may probably lead you nowhere. “Time lost cannot be regained” and “Make hay while the sun shines” may sound cliché, but they are completely must-heed advice if you want to make it in life. Distractions are everywhere so in order not to lose focus on one’s goal, you have to set principles and rules for yourself and one of these is that “no one is worth the chase.” Just pursue success and every other thing will chase after you.
Why would you want to put people you claim to love or feel capable of being the right partners for you in a position that might be dangerous for both of you? Why decide to consciously take a risk when it could cause you a ton because you want to live by certain standards? If you are not avoiding a man or a woman because you don’t feel for them as they do, or you want to figure out something about them, then cut to the chase! No one is worth the chase.