Psychology says that, love can leave a memory that no one can steal but it can also leave a pain that no one can heal.
This is the bittersweet nature of love. This is the story of most people, who are fortunate enough to fall in love.
All we do is sit in silence and wait for a sign. A sign to prove that, this love in particular we are pursuing will be devoid of the pain, disappointments we normally endure when the initial euphoria associated with falling in love slows down.
They say your first love is the most powerful, beautiful memorable love. It’s inundated with sweet memorable moments that lingers on even after years of heartbreak.
Love is always special, but your first love moves you in a way that is inherently unique. It introduces you to feelings you have never had before, for better or for worse, and is accompanied by a sense of wonder, intrigue, and excitement.
It’s filled with intense and passionate emotions that you think will last forever, which may be the reason why everyone says first love ishard to forget.
Falling in love for the first time is a beautiful experience. Everything feels good, wonderful and blissful. Always feel the butterflies whenever you meet your significant others.
Dates becomes an avenue to assess our dating partners. We take this opportunity also to picture memorable moments that lingers on for a long time.
Contemporary times, have seen a radical shift in this dating experience. It’s starts beautifully then within a couple of weeks it withers. It makes it looks as if, every love experience, is expected to take a nosedive.
When this happens, the one that invests the most loses the most. Heartaches, tears and sadness takes over. Healing becomes almost impossible. It’s always never the same.
No matter what happens in our subsequent relationships, we never forget our first love. We trust less and always thread with caution. We question every motive and action our partner’s takes. It is this pain our ladies experience in a damaged love experience, that primarily makes them play hard to get sometimes.
In attempts to streamline future romantic prospects, our ladies (girls) have adopted conscious subliminal measures to insulate their hearts from breaking. This subliminal conscious actions is what we call “playing hard to get”
So I’m here to share with my readers, why women play hard to get when their in relationships with us .
1. Playing hard to get protects her from getting hurt.
Society has socialized our women that, agreeing to out on a date too quickly, might makes her appear too ‘’easy’’ and would consequently make the guy loose interest. This when it happens leads to a heartbreak.
A young woman who plays hard to get normally does so so sieve the real intentions of the guy. After bouts of heartbreaks and episodes of disappointments, trusts becomes very difficult. So they will play hard to get, to hide her true feelings, and in effect makes men work harder to keep their
attention. So they play hard to get to gauge your intentions, your confidence, and above all insulate themselves from heartbreak.
2.Playing Hard to get is beneficial to her
A woman also sometimes play hard to get, because through that she’ll be able to get a confident guy( confidence is so attractive to women) that in turn will usually make a guy want her the more and value her higher than other girls.
Guys will normally go out and say “ wooow” I love that girl. She’s special. She’s not like the others. This is because that particular woman is making herself a prize to be won. Guys too love the thrill of the chase, so she’ll place a lot of value on herself.
3.She Has been Tricked or Hurt by guys before.
Some women have walls and are heavily guarded because they have been hurt by ex-boyfriends, or was quickly dumped by a man she was attracted to.
To avoid being hurt by you, some women will play hard to get to hope you feel more desperate for her.
She’ll be patient and will make sure you are completely interested in her before she opens up to you.
So pain, hurt, heartbreak is another reason our women play hard to get.
4.She Plays Hard to get because it works.
The truth of the matter is, playing hard to get works for many women. Most men, would definitely do anything to get the attention of men. What these men don’t realize is that, this makes them desperate. Desperation and neediness is a major turn off for women.
A confident and masculine man, is what attracts her the most. So these women play hard to get, to sieve the confident one’s from the needy ones.
5.She is Tired of how other guys approach her
Most often these women get hit on by needy, nervous guys who apply pick up lines to woo them.
After a while, they get tired and they have automatic response to reject guys who aren’t confident enough to approach them, and being able to attracts them.
So if a man, comes to this lady and applies same old pick up lines, these women, will definitely play hard to get. This is because they feel you’re hiding something, you’re not confident.
6.She is probably not Interested
Sometimes playing hard to get simply means she is not interested in you. Ladies sometimes do that, so that you get tired and give up.
They do this so that they don’t hurt your feelings by simply saying no to you. So they will frustrate you by playing hard to get so that you give up.
So my cherished readers, these are some of the reasons why our ladies play hard to get.
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Written by Godfred Ahlijah.( Kage)
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